ABUSE
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Fr. Ewart is the proud author of AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse. (click title)
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If you were abused or neglected as a child, chances are that you have been your whole life, whether you are a man, a woman, or a teen. Child abuse so mangles the personality that the victim unconsciously attracts abusers throughout the life cycle. Lies about yourself were planted deep in your mind by the abuse, and you still believe them. They are crippling your life!
Do you have any of these signs?
Until you understand exactly what the abuse did to you, you cannot get free. You can stay in therapy your whole life and never get a clue. OR you can unravel the mysteries once and for all and bring everything to light by reading AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse. A great resource for victims, therapists, and group work.
About the Author
Fr. Heyward B. Ewart, III, Ph.D. has devoted more than 24 years of his professional life to the protection and treatment of women, children, and the family. During the Carter administration, he served the White House Conference on Families, and such leadership continues to this day. He is not only a veteran clinician in the mental health field, but also a distinguished teacher at the university level and an active chaplain. Through Zoe University in Jacksonville, Florida, his video lectures have been used by distance-learning students across the United States and in some 41 foreign countries.
| WHAT THE EXPERTS SAY “…I am going to order two of the bound copies of the book, one for…the Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Coalition of North Carolina, and one for me. I do know some family practice residents and this will be an important issue for them. I am sure they get nothing about it elsewhere, nor do pediatric or internal medicine residents. Most of the members of my group are physicians at teaching centers…” --Ed Farell, M.D. “Thank you for sharing your book with me. I read the entire thing in two sittings! You bring out some very enlightening experiences that certainly back up your theories. Having worked in both a county mental-health clinic and an 800-bed mental health facility, I found your compassion and unique style of therapy refreshing.” --Pam English, Mental Health Professional “Having read those sample chapters of [your] book, I would have to recommend the reading of [your] theory to everyone on [our mailing list]. I would agree that child abuse has a major influence on the development of one’s personality…living in an abusive environment tends to [make a child] not able to explore or discover his or her own self.” --Cindy, Cornell University “Thank you for this information. I am really excited and have forwarded it on to several other agencies and professionals that I think will be interested.” --Kay Keller, Department of Children and Families, Florida “Your materials (testing for child/domestic abuse) are great! …I really hate very much child/domestic abuse because it is also practiced by many tribes in Tanzania.” --Filemoni Tenu, Muhimbili University of Dar es Salaam College of Health Sciences “Child and woman abuse is a very common complaint both in my private and public practice as a psychologist. I have found that almost two thirds of the women that I have interviewed present a long history of abuse as the main etiology of their depression…Needless to say, I am very interested in your tests; I will translate and use them in my practice, then I will e-mail the results for you, when I have enough cases.” --Ricardo Villamizar, Clinical Psychologist, Carlos Andrade Marin General Hospital, Ecuador “Thanks very much for [your materials]. I belong to a group [performing] maternity/early parenting services. For many years as an independent midwife, I had the opportunity to identify and acknowledge women’s past and current experience of abuse. Pregnancy is a ‘raw’ open time when many memories, feelings surface, whether the woman wants them to or not. This is a transitional time. I have personally observed that it is an opportunity to begin/continue a healing process.” --Jill Demilew, Kings Healthcare Trust, London “We would be very grateful for a copy of the structured questionnaires…we are very keen to study instruments that may make doing this kind of research with younger children easier and more productive. We do a lot of research with adult women who have experienced domestic violence and again any new instruments that can help are very welcome. We are also consulted a lot by researchers/academics in the Third World, particularly as we are the special advisors to the British Council on violence against women. Would you be happy for information about these instruments to be passed on to anyone who consults us?” --Linda Regan, Child and Woman Abuse Studies Unit, University of North London “I am currently working on an AUsAID funded Women’s Health and Family Welfare Project in Lombok, Sumbawa and Flores, Indonesia. We are very interest in using your tests on child abuse and domestic violence…we can translate your tests…they may be very useful for the kind of data we are looking for, particularly regarding the status of women.” --Harriot Beazley, Ph.D., Women’s Health and Family Welfare Project, Kodya Mataram, Indonesia “Thanks Dr. Ewart for the information. I have printed off a copy of the attachment…I wanted to share in my August Newsletter Column the availability of your material.” --Edie Moore, Society for Adolescent Medicine. “Thanks for sending me the sample chapters of the book and other information. I have found them very interesting and I will certainly pass on the information you have sent me to other interested parties, which I know may find the information useful for their work. Thanks again and well done for this important work.” --Lorraine Mercieca, Dip.Soc.Stud, Malta, Europe “It is, indeed, kind of you to make available your inventories for measuring domestic violence against both women and children. I am a Health Social Scientist from India and would be interested in conducting some reliability studies here.” --Hemant Kulkami, M.D. “Thank you very much for the attachments. I have frequent contact with both elementary school age children and with unwed mothers, many of whom I suspect were sexually abused as children. I am sure your work will be helpful.” --Barbara Franks-Morra, R.N., B.F.A., M.F.A. “Thank you for your reply. My interest stems from searching for information on the way that children whose parents are absent (divorce, bereavement and parental conviction) have problems at school, and that there appears to be a link with these social groups and child abuse. Keep up the good work. It is really needed as the repercussions are life-long for the child/adult” --Caroline Hancock, Trinity College, Carmarthen, UK
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News Items
(in Jacksonville, FL)
Nobody understands. If you have been abused as a child or an adult, you know this feeling. You yourself probably don't understand what the abuse has done to you—how it's made you feel like a nonperson, how it's caused fear of people, how it's made you accept further abuse.
Maybe you have nightmares or flashbacks, or maybe your nerves are always on edge. Perhaps you feel afraid and upset much of the time but don't know why. You might have turned to drugs or alcohol.
If you're a victim of domestic violence who managed to leave your abuser, you might have ended up with a new one worse than the first.
You may have a child that you suspect has been abused, but you need to find out for sure. And if so, that child and you both need expert help.
If you call yourself an alcoholic or drug addict, you've never realized that abuse got you started. The same with eating disorders. So you get very little help from 12-step programs. They don't deal with the root cause of your addiction.
If you've sought the help of the police, the courts, or shelters, you've received little, if any, help. In fact, you may have placed yourself in greater danger.
BUT NOW there's a support group offering real help. It's called SHAARE (Sacred Heart Abuse and Addiction Recovery Experience). Yes, it is Christian-based, but you don't have to be a Christian to benefit. Individual treatment is also available.
When you hear your new friends talk about their own difficulties and solutions, you will learn about yourself. You will experience group empowerment. Somebody WILL understand. And the program is for you, whether you are rich or poor. SHAARE is a MINISTRY, not a business.
This new approach to healing is led by Father Heyward Ewart, Ph.D., a former psychologist and a counselor for 30 years. He is an author and expert on abuse and addiction.
When SHAARE becomes part of your life, you will start living for the first time. Call or email Father Ewart right now: heywardewart@bellsouth.net; 904-724-3536. Call for yourself or for someone you care about, and ask for our free questionnaires that help determine when someone needs help.
All are invited to our support groups, meeting at 4 p.m.Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 221 N. Arlington Road, between Atlantic Boulevard and the Arlington Expressway. The only cost, if any, is when we pass the basket.
FOREWORD
Somewhere in the world today sits a woman in a hospital emergency room with her head hung low; body posture in a slumped, negative position; she is probably bleeding from an uncommon place on her body; a rape kit is being prepared by the nursing staff and a criminal offense report is being filled out by a police officer. From this description you already know this woman has been sexually assaulted.
What the description doesn’t tell you is the mindset of this woman. Being a former police officer, my experience, after countless numbers of these types of instances, is that this victim’s mindset is “This is my fault.” No matter the age, education, background or circumstance, when the police report is written and the questioning begins, the victim will blame herself for being assaulted.
In his book: AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse Dr. Heyward Ewart brilliantly brings this type of thinking to light, stating “Every child blames herself for the abuse or neglect she has suffered. The message, deeply internalized, navigates the individual throughout life.” Experience also tells me that this is not the first time she has suffered this type of abuse, at the hands of what I like to call a “domestic terrorist”.
Domestic in relationship, known or unknown to the victim, this type of terrorist is not hiding in caves, carrying grenade launchers down city streets or flying planes into buildings; no, this terrorist is convincing the innocence in a child or the grace in a woman that she is to blame for being abused, thereby holding the child or the woman hostage in her own mind!
This type of mindset ultimately leads the victim to self-destructive behaviors, not the commonplace self-destruction that we see daily, but the kind that puts limitations in the mind of the victim. The result leaves her mentally seeking relationships with those who would be abusers. Dr. Ewart, being right on point, makes this perfectly clear when he states, “The abused little girl becomes the abused adolescent, who becomes an abused adult. Just as water seeks its own level, so an abused person seeks relationships and a lifestyle that are no better than what she believes she deserves.”
Am I Bad? Recovering from Abuse is masterfully written, with questions, answers, case studies and strong, clear facts. This book should not just sit on the bookshelves of psychologists and counselors. It should be open on the desk and readily available to draw from its wealth of knowledge that the author has penned, not just for us in the field but for everyone who will ever come in contact with those who have been abused and need to understand that IT IS NOT MY FAULT!
Larry Stevenson
Founder/CEO
National Agenda
http://www.nationalagenda.net/
Author, From the Inside out: A Look Into Teen Violence and Rebellion
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